Q&A
Q: What is this?
A: Playamory (pronounced "Play-Amory") is the philosophical home for a series of events. If the text here seems vague, it's because each event has the latitude to set its own agenda. This site exists to provide a permanent home for resources, like the foundational philosophy and incident reporting. If you have questions left unanswered in this Q&A or an event description, please reach out directly to the event host.
Q: Why am I here?
A: You are here either because you've been invited to an event we're hosting, or you stumbled here via some other serendipitous means. If you've been invited to an event, then all should be pretty self explanatory. If you're here for any other reason, well, we hope you find what you're looking for, in life and in love.
Q: How do I get invited to an event?
A: Our events are invite-only, and require you to be invited by a host or referred by an already-vetted invitee. There is no public list of past, present, or upcoming events.
Q: What is the founding philosophy?
A: The founding philosophy of Playamory is that we are capable and desiring of treating each other as fully human, even in the context of brief, fleeting connections. We seek to both ask, and answer the question "can we fall in love for just a moment?"
Q: Falling in Love is scary! Explain yourself!
A: When we talk about "love" we're not talking about "capital L" love, although that certainly can and does happen. What we're talking about is love for your fellow human. Showing up to treat and be treated with kindness and respect, regardless of all else. As some of our event themes include adult themes or fall along the edge of culture, we aim to create a container for each event where all participants feel cared for, seen, and heard. We believe merely agreeing to do something (consent) is a bare and inadequate minimum, and we ask for more from you: a commitment to show up with the best interest of those around you at heart. To prioritize the needs of the other over the desires of the self.
Q: So, you're looking for enthusiastic consent?
A: Not exactly. We're looking for people who can hear hesitant consent and respond with care and compassion, prioritizing the needs and boundaries of the other over their own desires. Sometimes we are hesitant to try "the thing" we desire, and only with the confidence that those around us have our best interests at heart can we be truly free to pursue "the thing".
A: Playamory (pronounced "Play-Amory") is the philosophical home for a series of events. If the text here seems vague, it's because each event has the latitude to set its own agenda. This site exists to provide a permanent home for resources, like the foundational philosophy and incident reporting. If you have questions left unanswered in this Q&A or an event description, please reach out directly to the event host.
Q: Why am I here?
A: You are here either because you've been invited to an event we're hosting, or you stumbled here via some other serendipitous means. If you've been invited to an event, then all should be pretty self explanatory. If you're here for any other reason, well, we hope you find what you're looking for, in life and in love.
Q: How do I get invited to an event?
A: Our events are invite-only, and require you to be invited by a host or referred by an already-vetted invitee. There is no public list of past, present, or upcoming events.
Q: What is the founding philosophy?
A: The founding philosophy of Playamory is that we are capable and desiring of treating each other as fully human, even in the context of brief, fleeting connections. We seek to both ask, and answer the question "can we fall in love for just a moment?"
Q: Falling in Love is scary! Explain yourself!
A: When we talk about "love" we're not talking about "capital L" love, although that certainly can and does happen. What we're talking about is love for your fellow human. Showing up to treat and be treated with kindness and respect, regardless of all else. As some of our event themes include adult themes or fall along the edge of culture, we aim to create a container for each event where all participants feel cared for, seen, and heard. We believe merely agreeing to do something (consent) is a bare and inadequate minimum, and we ask for more from you: a commitment to show up with the best interest of those around you at heart. To prioritize the needs of the other over the desires of the self.
Q: So, you're looking for enthusiastic consent?
A: Not exactly. We're looking for people who can hear hesitant consent and respond with care and compassion, prioritizing the needs and boundaries of the other over their own desires. Sometimes we are hesitant to try "the thing" we desire, and only with the confidence that those around us have our best interests at heart can we be truly free to pursue "the thing".